Friday, September 16, 2005

My Son, He's SO Over Me.

Anthony's been back in day care for two weeks now, and each morning that I've brought him there he's cried and sobbed and let me know how VERY mad he is at me for abandoning him, "Mother what are you doing to me leaving me with these people who feed me and play with me and provide me with a nap, they have no vacuum cleaner, you BEAST!" (You're supposed to read that last sentence really quickly).

And then Wednesday rolled around and we went through the same ordeal. Except this time his teacher put a Pop Tart in his hand and the crying fit of a child said, "Ooo!" Like, "Hmmm....Mommy or a Pop Tart? Well, surely a Pop Tart any day!" I see, kid. That's how it's going to be, huh?

Then yesterday we got to class and yikes! breakfast wasn't ready. So we're back to the crying.

Today, though. Today. This is where I get to the point of this story. We walked into his class, he sat down on the floor in front of the television (no hate mail, please about how the day care lets the kids watch TV with breakfast) and made a sound like, "I just might cry today." Then Barney, the most evil, wretched creature, came on. And Anthony's eye sucked back the tear he almost cried and my child waved "Bye Bye" to me.

Now, look. I like that he likes day care. If he didn't, if I knew that the crying lasted all day (and I know it doesn't because I lurk outside the door until the crying is over), I would either try to find out why he's so unhappy or I would pull him from the day care. But he gets over the abandonment pretty quickly, and he eats all of his food, and the teachers tell me he's a delight to have and that he likes to share. WONDERFUL. But that little bit of crying in the morning always makes me feel like he's saying, "Mommy, you are so much better than day care. Sure I have fun here, but it's nothing compared to the fun you and I have just the two of us." So come on, kid! Make Mama feel needed and wanted, huh? Cry a little!

Ok, maybe not.

7 comments:

Becca said...

I'm with you Laurie. Natalie just started to take off when I drop her at the babysitters in the morning. And by take off I mean she climbs the stairs as fast as she can and runs away. Occasionally turning around to blow me a kiss and say, "bye,bye."

Oh, how I miss those crying "don't leave me" days! Well at least my liver is there with her all day long :)!

Renee said...

Laurie,
I, too, know what you mean. Sometimes when I pick my boy up from the babysitter, he'll come to me for a minute and then stretch his little chunky arms back to her to go with her. :(
But I'll get over it.

Jen said...

Laurie,

Been there and still wondering if I'm chop liver or something!

Anthony is getting so big now. Wow!

Jen
www.caringbridge.org/wi/alphagirls

Shannon, Little Marisa' s Mommy said...

I'm always sad when my kids go off into someone else's care without even a glace back at me! When Camille started second grade this year, she wouldn't even give us a kiss good-bye in front of anyone. She drug us into the hallway, rolling her eyes, gave a kiss that barely touched our lips, and ran back into the classroom. That was the last time I got to walk her to school this year.... Jackson still loves his hugs and kisses though, even in front of his kindergarten buddies! :-)

Raina said...

Hey Guys....
Still alive and kicking here in Seattle. Hey which Doc. did Anthony's Transplant? Got some gossip to let you in on.. Email me.
Oh how i wish we could get Bekka into somekind of babysitter or something. With her Immune suppression being more so, with a liver small bowel, than just that liver only, not to mention the darn feeding tube as well as meds!!! I fear that traditional child care is just not in our books. But I feel for you. But it's all worth it when you get back from work/school..... and their faces light up and you get big hugs and weird words and they say "MAMA" with their arms open wide! I love it! Likely when Spring comes, I may just have to Family Medical Leave from work for like 2 months strait. Unless I can get a nurse I know and trust to watch out for her. I am still gaurded after this last event when she had the resection of her Small Bowel! .. I love reading your blogs Laurie, you use such animation with your words!!
Take care and Blessings and prayers always for you all
Raina Todd and Bekka

Raina said...

Hey Guys....
Still alive and kicking here in Seattle. Hey which Doc. did Anthony's Transplant? Got some gossip to let you in on.. Email me.
Oh how i wish we could get Bekka into somekind of babysitter or something. With her Immune suppression being more so, with a liver small bowel, than just that liver only, not to mention the darn feeding tube as well as meds!!! I fear that traditional child care is just not in our books. But I feel for you. But it's all worth it when you get back from work/school..... and their faces light up and you get big hugs and weird words and they say "MAMA" with their arms open wide! I love it! Likely when Spring comes, I may just have to Family Medical Leave from work for like 2 months strait. Unless I can get a nurse I know and trust to watch out for her. I am still gaurded after this last event when she had the resection of her Small Bowel! .. I love reading your blogs Laurie, you use such animation with your words!!
Take care and Blessings and prayers always for you all
Raina Todd and Bekka

Raina said...

oops not comfortable with your message posting here on blogs...
oh well.. have a good one